A long story. Romantic feelings towards best friend of same sex, head not on straight, advice please?

I am a 24 year old girl with a boyfriend of seven years. Over the last two years I have become great friends with a girl that I worked with. Although we have nothing in common (she likes motorbikes and tennis and hates girly stuff, and I like music, make up and movies) we seem to click and whenever I needed someone to chat to at work I always went to her. When there was a work outing we always ended up being the last ones out drinking together in a club. She left our company a few months ago and I was devestated, but we promised to keep in contact, which we did. I started having sexual dreams about her about 6 mths ago. But recently we are getting closer and there is a little flirting happening. She also said (albeit lightheartedly) that if anything ever went wrong with her husband that she is giving up on men and is going to be a lesbian. I said ';I'll be your girlfriend'; and she said ';Yeah? let's shake on it...'; What do I do? I wouldn't ask if I wasn't serious. Thanks for help. xA long story. Romantic feelings towards best friend of same sex, head not on straight, advice please?
Maybe you should do stuff together with your boyfriend like going on holiday, cinema etc. Spend more time with each other, but when you do and you still think of her then tell her how you feel, im sure she'll understand.A long story. Romantic feelings towards best friend of same sex, head not on straight, advice please?
She may not feel the same way. You could try talking openly about it to her but consider the consequences. Will she be understanding that it is a curiosity and may be nothing more than that?





Test the water before you dive in. Seek her opinion on the subject generally.
oh this is a toughy. If your feelings are serious and stronger then your boyfriends, try going for her.
If you didn't have a boyfriend, %26amp; she wasn't married, would you be with this woman? If the answer is ';no';, you most probably have nothing at all to worry about. But if the answer is ';yes';, you probably have to question your relationship with your boyfriend first. If you're having thoughts about being with someone else, maybe it's showing you that the relationship you're in isn't really working. If it was amazing and you were with ';The One';, then you wouldn't be contemplating someone else, and writing this question on here, would you?





I definitely think she likes you. If she is flirty with you and asked you to shake on being her girlfriend, it's as though she is letting you see she likes you but is keeping ';safe'; because she doesn't want to alarm you, probably. If she has a husband though, are you sure she's not completely straight and just OVERLY friendly and slightly flirty? You don't want to wreck a friendship over this. But I think by what you've said, there's definitely more than friendship going on between the two of you.





Does she sound happy with her husband, talk about him lots, is she planning children with him? If the answers to these questions are yes, then she's probably not even thinking about leaving him, and is just being playful with you. I think you need to look at your own relationship. If it's not working out, maybe you could end it and then see how this girl reacts. If she seems pleased and flirts with you even more (she might be holding back because you have a boyfriend and she doesn't want to come across as eager and she may even think you're totally straight) then you'll know there is definitely something there.





Good luck.
First off she is married and if she said lightheartedly that if anything went bad with her husband she'd become a lesbian, then I would take it she is still happily married. Perhaps she wants the husband and the girl on girl action on the side, that I can't tell you from your post, but it sounds to me you would end with a broken heart if you were just a little action to her.





You have been with your boyfriend for seven years - the famous year known as ';the Seven Year Itch'; perhaps you are looking for something different, maybe you're bored with your boyfriend. Maybe you are coming to terms with your own lesbian or bi nature. Only you can know these things. Really sit down and try and think if you want to continue with your boyfriend, if you want a woman in your life, or maybe none of the above even.





Just remember your friend is off limits. Maybe you are reading her signals all wrong. If you want to explore your lesbian side, go for it, with another woman.
First off, let me say that I understand how you feel. I am close to your age, and my thoughts and feelings have long been confused. You asked ';what do I do?'; I ask ';What do you want?'; You definitely have a connection with this girl -- but its hard to tell the nature of this connection. I believe there is what is known as ';companionate'; love and ';romantic'; love, and that they don't always overlap. I am assuming that you do have sexual and passionate feelings for her? You mentioned dreams, but dreams don't necessarily indicate a true desire. Do you feel as if you cannot deal with her just being your friend? A great friend is as beloved, in my opinion, as a romantic partner. It's just a different form of loving. For instance, I realized that the feelings I had for my female crushes where the kind that you get from being outside on a nice day, whereas the feelings I had for the male crushes were that ';sun and moon'; feeling. That sounds kinda weird, but hopefully the analogy makes sense....





I'm not trying to discourage you from her -- just saying to be sure of what you want beforehand, because a friendship is a terrible thing to have go bad over a failed romance. Also, she is married and you are in a serious relationship... Would this situation make you uncomfortable if it were a married man you felt an inclination for? It's hard to read the signs without actually seeing the two of you together, but the ';lesbian jokes'; could very well just be jokes. Many of my friends make these kind of comments all the time, and, as far as I know, I'm the only one who has even questioned (although its a secret, so could be more of them). I think a women do tend to be ';into'; each other, but not to a point where they feel driven to act on it. Do you feel that you need to do so, or are the strong feelings just making you anxious?





If you do feel like you truly are meant to be with her as a romantic couple, perhaps you need to talk to her. But I would wait a bit into rekindling your friendship, as the various circumstances make it a tricky thing at this point in time.

Need some romantic advice?

ok I told a friend of 7 years that i'm crazy about her. Funny thing, I didn't really know it untill a couple weeks ago. I was thinking about it for a time, and when I told her how I felt, she said she's been thinking the same thing. Which is great really. I've been good friends with her for years, I just never thought this would happen. But it did, I tried to jump the friend/romance gap and I made it. But now that she and I have said we're interested in the other and are really happy talking about things, Neither of us has a clue as to what to do now. We both like the other, and she's 19, i'm 24. But, I myself, don't know if it's best to take it slow, or treat things like the beginning of any other relationship. I was thinking more of the latter. Any thoughts? Also, I realyl want to send her a poem, cause I really suck at writeing it myself lol. So, does anyone know a good website for romancit poetry, or one that talks about friendship/romance? really need the help on this one. Can you help me out??Need some romantic advice?
i am very happyNeed some romantic advice?
For one my friend you are friends....Thats a great start....But just remember that,to love her you must first feel that you are friends...then the love an need comes next...try this........Loving you is all i need,being with you satisfies all we need.....but if i die i'll go to heaven they will give me wings,a golden harp with silver strings and there apond i will wait for you by the gate that you must come through, if and when it comes your time and you don't show...I'll know you gone the other way.....and just to prove my love so true? I'll give back my wings,golden harp with silver strings and just to prove my love for you i'd walk through hell to be with you........geb hope this helps gl
You must keep going like that but don't go to the wrong side (you will be understanding me right?). I mean if you do whatever you will do after marry don't do that before. because you both will loose the respect. And one thing more that if your (both of yours or either ones) parents will not accept for your marriage it will only hurt you, her life will not destroy.





anyway pray for me and best of luck.

I'm 23. A virgin. A nice, romantic guy. Looking for a girl to help me with my Virginity. Any advice???

ummm.... hmmm look somewhere else???? like where you can actually SEE a girl???I'm 23. A virgin. A nice, romantic guy. Looking for a girl to help me with my Virginity. Any advice???
hey nothing wrong with that-don't let anyone ever convince you otherwise-i'm almost 20 and i only had my first make out session like 4-5 years ago...just gotta let things happen when they do i know i'm a perfectly normal person and i'd rather find someone that wants to be with me for me rather than just ''action,action,action';...granted action is really awesome at times but it means absolutely nothing than compared to something you hold meaningfulI'm 23. A virgin. A nice, romantic guy. Looking for a girl to help me with my Virginity. Any advice???
Yes, find a nice, romantic girl. Tell her you expect to be a virgin until after you're married. If she is not cool with that she doesn't respect you, kick her to the curb. If she's OK with it, hang on to her, she may be the one.
Hey, that sucks for you. Let's see... find a nice girl, not a slut but a NICE girl, go slow with her, make sure you kiss before entering the friend zone, and before you know it, you'll be just like every other retarded shallow guy, hope this helps, ( from a guy's perspective... not gay )
Work with any ladies at the office. Compliment looks, never tell any girl she is NOT pretty.Smell good make sure of it, deodorant always.Fohawks are gay. Put yourself out there, start conversation, be bold and confident.Don't ignore her phone calls for more than 2 days.
Why should you rushing for that?Bcoz you're virgin? Yeah, maybe others will laugh at you and embarass, coz you still virgin at this age. I think you must have sex with someone who really love you and you too. Let your first be a wonderful experience. Don't you think so?
Is this a problem for you? I'm 18 and I plan to keep the old V card till I get married. If you're 23 you might as well hold out a few more years till you find a wife.
make sure you find the right person, don't find someone just to have sex with them, make sure you establish a meaningful relationship with them.
Go find a friends with benefits so whenever you find a real girlfriend you won't come in 2 seconds. Good Luck
all i can say is you are going to find the right girl one day when the time is right.
go downtown and i'm sure there will be someone there to help you with that.
There's nothing wrong with that!


Find the right girl.


If you can't... go to a sex bar somewhere downtown.
dont 'date someone juts to have sex with them





you're a jerk.

Any Advice On How To Make A Proposal Special And Romantic?

My boyfriend proposed to me a little while ago, and I said yes. Therefore, he became my fiance. Unfortunately, though, neither one of us had money for a ring. He is very hesitant about getting me a ring and proposing again. I really want us to both have rings, though. He told me when we first met that he thought it would be really sexy if a girl proposed to him. Therefore, I am planning on getting us both rings and doing exactly that. I really want to make it unique and special, though. Any advice on how to do this? Also, any advice about giving him my ring and getting him to give it back to me? Or do I just present both rings at the same time, and put them on both of us? Any tips and suggestions would be greatly appreciated. I know he will say yes since we are already technically engaged, I just want to make sure that it is really special and done right. Thank you.Any Advice On How To Make A Proposal Special And Romantic?
On the place where you first met propose to him there..Any Advice On How To Make A Proposal Special And Romantic?
Cute ideas here:





http://www.robbinsbros.com/engagement-ri鈥?/a>

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What are your favorite romantic songs? Metal guys and girls I need your advice too.?

I'm picking some songs for me and my boyfriend to dance to on our wedding day, which is also going to be on our 5th dating anniversary.





He's kind of a metal guy, and I don't want him to feel too cheesy with the songs I pick (so no enya or anything like that); but I don't want to dance to a metal song (so none of that either).





We can mutually agree on stuff like Tool and any 90's rock really. I've also caught him listening to some of the music I like too, which is softer rock like Elliott Smith, Death Cab for Cutie, The Killers, etc..





So far, I've got:


';I Will Follow You into the Dark'; by Death Cab for Cutie


';Samson'; by Regina Spektor


';First Day of My Life'; by Bright EyesWhat are your favorite romantic songs? Metal guys and girls I need your advice too.?
';Til the End of Time'; by DeVotchKa is lovely, but not a hokey, cheesy love song. You might know their music from Little Miss Sunshine. Or what about a metal song done classically? Apocalyptica plays metal on cellos (no singing), and it's gorgeous.What are your favorite romantic songs? Metal guys and girls I need your advice too.?
ok


so i've got a few


you could do the cover of careless whisper that seether did.


or you can try


sweet child o'mine- guns and roses


Beforre the dawn- judas priest


with eyes wide shut- blessthefall (such a cute song)


Sieze the day- avenged sevenfold


this world can't tear us apart- trivium (i dont think you can slow dance to this though...)


promise her the moon- mr. big


pray- blessthefall (you could have it all choreographed and everything! lol)
My new favorite for a wedding would be ';Set Down Your Glass'; by Snow Patrol...don't let the song title fool you, pay attention to the lyrics...





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If he is a Metal guy, then perhaps he and you would like ';Nothing Else Matters,'; by MetallicA. Another couple of decent songs would be ';The Glory Of Love'; and that famous one by the band Chicago. I can't remember the name of it now, but I think it's called, ';If You Leave Me Now.';
I like:


The Little Things Give You Away by Linkin Park


Shadow Of The Day by Linkin Park


Lips Of An Angel by Hinder


Your Arms Feel Like Home by 3 Doors Down


The Time Of My Life by David Cook


Never Gonna Be Alone by Nickelback


I'd Come For You by Nickelback


Not a Day Goes By by Lonestar


Amazed by Lonestar


Won't Let You Down by Keith Urban





I hope that this helped.
Def Leppard - Animal is cool.





If you both like 90's rock, then what about Pearl Jam?





Better Man, Yellow Ledbetter, Wishlist...they have loads of nice and meaningful slow songs.





Hope you find one. :)
light on


and time of my life by david cook


bullet for my valentine %26lt;any of the new songs%26gt;


the good left undone by rise against


niki fm by hawthorne heights
Try 'All those nights' by Dear Juliet


and congratulations :)
You can try:


';Love Song'; by The Cure or 311


*';Champagne Supernova'; by Oasis Covered by Matt Pond PA*- Goes well with occasion.


';Enter Sandman'; - Metallica


';Goodnight and Go'; by Imogen Heap


*';Through Glass'; by Stone Sour* - Recommended but not for occasion


';57'; by Biffy Clyro


';For You'; by The Calling


*';Fix You'; by Coldplay*


';Higher'; by Creed


';One Last Breathe'; by Creed


****';Stolen';(Album Original Slow Version) By Dashboard Confessional*****- Highly Reccomended


';Times Like These'; by The Foo Fighters


';In Love With a Girl'; - Gavin DeGraw


**';Iris';- The Goo Goo Dolls**


';Dig'; by Incubus


**';Summer Romance (Anti-Gravity Lovesong) by Incubus**


';Last Kiss'; by Pearl Jam


';Black %26amp; Gold'; - Sam Sparro - More of an Electronic Dance Sound.


';Our Song'; by Taylor Swift


';Fearless'; by Taylor Swift


';The Way I Loved You'; by Taylor Swift


**';Crazier'; by Taylor Swift-Crazier is a great song to slow dance to.**


For Metal,


Through The Fire and Flames - DragonForce.(Joking)





Good Luck For Ur Song Selection and Ur Wedding!

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He's Just Not That Into You. I love that movie!
hes just not that in to you!i love it its halorious

Okay guys thnx for all the advice but hes picky and ive already done all the romantic stuff what now!!!?

change to some body else. Its very very difficult with such people specially if they keep changing their standards