My wife told her she could stay w/ us during her divorce, but she is really killing my love life by always being around and whining about how her husband left her because she's fat.
Please help!Does anyone have any advice on how I can go about having a romantic evening with my wifes best friend
MAKE PLANS TO GET AWAY AND LEAVE HER TO HOUSE SITDoes anyone have any advice on how I can go about having a romantic evening with my wifes best friend
Take a long drive and have some alone time with your wife. I am sure she would enjoy it as well. Good luck.
Have you told your wife how you feel? Your marraige comes before her friend, she needs to be told to leave. Offer to help her find a hotel or apartment to rent. Or you guys will be the next divorce on the list.
Oh boy that sucks! You are in a tough place here....its nice of your wife to let her stay but you still have to have your life back. How much longer is she going to have to be there? You cant really say too much without upsetting your wife since she is her best friend. The idea of going out is a good one but it sucks that you HAVE to do that so you can spend sometime with your wife. What if you ';Suggested'; to your wife's friend that she goes out to a movie or something that she likes to do to ';Relax and unwind'; Your treat. Make it sound like you want to do something to help her out. You should really talk to your wife about this as well tell her ';you know Hon I think its great that you are helping her out like this but we need some time for us too';
Best of luck...and hey if all else fails...get a room LOL
go out for a romantic evening movies and nice dinner.. if you have a friend that is lonely have him take your wifes friend out.. that is always an option.
talk to your wife, she has to have other friends get your wife (tell her why) to get one of them to to take her out and maybe have her sleep over...your best bet unless you can afford to get away for a weekend or something...
Give her some money %26amp; tell her to go see a movie.
Have you talked to your wife about this? How does she feel?
Your wife needs to tell her that although she is welcome to stay there for a while, it is important that the 2 of you have some time alone together.
Take your wife to a motel. Change of scenary is always nice as well as some privacy. Maybe when she sees what she is missing out on at home because of this friend being there too much she may have to make arrangements with her friend to stay somewhere else on the weekends or something.
Shoot your wife and marry her friend
If you are nice about it, and don't do it too often, ask her NICELY if she would mind going out for an evening, or if she could hang out in her room while you bring your 'company' over. I don't think it's unreasonable to ask this, but again.....as long as it's not all the time, because this probably can't be much fun for this woman. You have to be considerate of her too.
Can't you go to the other woman's house? I'm talking about your 'new' woman. Go to a lounge and hang out there. Or go to a cafe, or some place you can go and hang out. If you are going to go have sex, then go home and go to your room. The guest woman won't be in there will she?!
You'll have to compromise something, but you can't just boot the guest woman, since she's staying there she has to feel as tho she has some place stable to live too.
Hope you can work it out for everyone. Good luck to you.
Why don't you all go out to a nice restaraunt or something?
Get her counseling and explain that she is in your household and if she is really that fat......then do something about that. She is having self esteem issues. But it is your house, she should tip toe around you and your wife, not the other way around. You can only mope around for so long before you are considered pathetic.
To be honest, I opened this post to tell you you were a jerk because I thought you were asking for advice on how to cheat on your wife. I have to apologize for judging you falsely. (I guess the whole ';Don't judge a book by its cover'; thing is an adage for a reason!)
Now, to my advice--How about taking your wife away for a night? You don't have to go far or spend a lot of money. Go to a local hotel (check out some travel websites to get some great last minute deals--like hotels.com or hotwire.com), order in food to your hotel room, bring a nice bottle of wine or champagne with you, pack her some sexy lingerie, don't tell her that you're going and surprise her.
If you have kids, pick a weekend night where you can have someone watch your kids for the evening. If you don't have kids, do it on a weeknight when your wife is totally not expecting it.
As for the libido-killing friend, how long is she staying? If she's overstaying her welcome and staying with you for a long time, maybe you could ask her if you could have a night alone with your wife. This may not go over well since she's clearly bitter about relationships right now, but she is your guest and should respect your space. If she doesn't do that, get her a night at a spa or something (expensive, but maybe worth it!).
Good luck!
I have to agree with most of the above Posters. Take the wife out somewhere. Find a good romantic French restaurant and then take her to a fine hotel. You and her need some 'away' time.
I know that you both are trying to be supportive, but friendship can only be stretched so far.
My husband and I opened our home to a family member in a pinch, and it took months befroe they were back on their feet. It did a number on our romance as well. Go out for an early dinner, stop at a local hotel, make love for hours, go back home with big smiles on your faces! It works and gets you through til the next time. Also, we helped our guest to have things to do that got them out of the house. We would take advantage of that time as well. If she has a friend she can go out with for the evening, you can have a few hours alone. By the way, our guest mentioned after the fact that they knew we had needs, and that they would have been ok with us saying, do you mind going to a movie, I'd like to cook a romantic dinner tonight.... good luck, and great job trying to keep your romance alive!
Take your wife out for a romantic evening and leave the whining friend to housesit. Before you know it, she'll have your wife mopeing around, and you don't want that. Have you wife get all dressed up, take her out, get a HOTEL room if you have to, and dance the night away with the one you love. Oh, call the friend's divorce lawyer and see when the procedure will be final!
Set your wifes best friend up with someone and get them tickets to an event they both might like.. OR... Take those tickets and use them for your wife and you!
The easiest way would be to leave the house for a few hours... Set up dinner... Maybe get a hotel... and..... well....you take it from there! ;)
You might also want to set up a timeline for when this woman will be moving out. It might be good for her to get out on her own instead of mooching off of friends. She's gonna have to do it by herself sooner or later!
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