Wedding advice...have it fun or go with romantic elegance?

i know a wedding is meant to be what myself and my fiancie wants but he doesnt care to much for the finer details (typical man) so im organising it. Im torn between having a fun wedding thats diffrent and people will remeber or going for the romantic/ elegant wedding i always imagined yet altho i will remeber it forever others will see it as being just another wedding.





my 'fun and diffrent' idea was to have a candy/theme park thing where the favours would be bags of sweets, have a chocolate fondue, popcorn machine, candy floss machine and the food would be mini burgers/pizzas that sort of thing.





my romantic idea is to stick with a candy pink and white wedding..all very simple and elegant. salmon and finger sandwhiches for the buffet, pink feathers scattered across crisp white tables and bunches of helium ballons in the middle.





what to do?


fun or romantic?Wedding advice...have it fun or go with romantic elegance?
I don't really think you have to just pick one. You can do both and have a reception that is a mix of both fun and elegant.





Personally, if you go with all your ';fun and different'; ideas you run the risk of having your wedding feel more like an amusement park or take away from the actual ';wedding'; vibe. I think you should incorporate both ideas in order to have a wedding that not only bespeaks romantic and elegant, but also fun and whimisical.





*If you are having separate cocktail hours and dinner, mix up the food. Add some bite size mini-burgers for the cocktail hour served in passed trays by the waiters. For the dinner, if it's sit down keep it something simpler and a little more elegant. If it's a buffet, you have the option of mixing up the foods and choosing different things.


*Go ahead and have a chocolate fondue fountain if it's in your budget as part of the dessert portion of your ceremony--surround it with marshmallows and fruit and cookies. Next to it, think of maybe putting out a candy buffet. Provide small cellophane bags for the guests and a nice assortment of candies--m%26amp;m's in pink (if that's your color), skittles, etc...


*Instead of a traditional dessert, try serving little cones of cotton candy to each guest instead. I've seen this done and it's great. It's enough for one person and can be done tastefully.


*Mix up your linens. Use a crisp, white tablecloth and add a second one on top of it to accent it in something like a hot pink.


*Keep your table setting simple and elegant, but go with something a little more fun and whimsical as your centerpiece.


*At the end of your reception, go ahead and have them roll out a popcorn machine. Guests can take little bags of popcorn home with them to snack on.





There are many things you can do to incorporate both themes into your wedding.Wedding advice...have it fun or go with romantic elegance?
i would say go for the fun theme BUT!!


As you are having it in the hilton which is a swanky hotel and with the pink dress you will make it into a barbie and sindy wedding!!


if you are going to go for the whole fun thing maybe you should think about having it in a different location otherwise it is going to out of place!!


the romantic theme sounds nice in the hotel you have chosen!!
fun romantic is naff especially the way you explaIN it sorry hun candy pink isn't my idea of romantic
go for the fun factor
Do it fun and stress free, that way you guys have a good time and your guests have a fun time and its memorable.
Romantic and elegant. I love your ideas for pink and white with salmon and feathers.





The 'fun and different' idea sounds interesting, but in my honest opinion it seems more like an elaborate birthday party than a wedding.
if your going to have it in an elegant place have an elegant wedding if you were going to have it in a ballroom or outside then there is no reason not to have it fun and romantic.........i think.
I'd go for the fun one but i'm a bit mad anyway but i would love it!
Brutally Honest's answer is right! The people who come probably won't remember it much anyway. This is your day! I would suggest going with an elegant wedding to match the location, but keep the reception fun. What really matters are your wedding vows to each other. Have a wonderful wedding and blissful marriage!
why not have both
With our wedding, my husband and I did it both ways. The wedding ceremony itself was very formal and classy and romantic, and then for the reception...we had a formal dinner, but the emphasis was on FUN all the way. Eight years later people *still* talk about our wedding. I even had *guests* who wanted copies of our reception video because it was such a fun party.
Go with the the fun idea. I think it's a great idea and less boring with the traditional wedding that everybody already knows. Usually, traditional weddings are so predictable and nerve ragging that i don't know why people spend so much, to basically, spend the day crying and messing up expensive makeup etc...


Have FUN!!!!
the ceremony should be solemn and romantic and the reception can be the fun part..
It sounds to me like you are talking more of the reception portion than the wedding ceremony portion of the event. If you want both aspects then make the ceremony the romantic part...dress elegantly, write your own vows, etc, etc, etc, and make your reception the place for fun.





To tell you the honest truth, you could hold your reception AT a theme park and most people STILL won't remember the finer details of the day. Just do what would make YOU happy, and don't worry about what others think, because frankly they're there FOR YOU, to help you celebrate your day, and the party is just that ... a party.
I'd go with the fun. It'll be a day to remember for you and you guests.
you should incorporate both! congrats on the wedding =)
Do a little of both. I am in the same situation. We are having it a formal dinner but some fun stuff involved. We are having a candy buffet and a root beer float toast instead of champagne! So just think outisde the box and see if you can accomodate both ideas.
romantic and elegant for the ceremony and then at the reception... it is time to party and have fun!!
Have a romantic elegant wedding and then at the reception... it is time to party and have fun!! My brother got married and it was beautiful and traditional and then when the reception came it was wild and fun. ... the dj used all kinds of different props for people to use when dancing and it was wild! I remembered that wedding!!
the fun idea sounds good.... hire a photo booth so you can get really fun shots of all your guests!
I am always a fan of Elegant as a go-to unless you have a great idea to be different. I like you Candy-theme idea. it sounds like fun for you and your guests.





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I was in the same delima about 2 years ago, but i went for a super elegant wedding and the reception was fun fun fun, and the following week another friend was married and her wedding and reception were stuffy and stiff and you were afraid to move alomst, the same group of friends were at both weddings and they to this day talk of how fun my was and how stuffy my friends was. so i got the elegant part and the fun part, just do what makes you happy,
Romantic. Save the theme park for a birthday party. Weddings should be special not another day at an amusement park. Not to mention people probably won't forget it, but that might not be in a good way, a carnival theme might not sit right especially if you have conseritave family and it might become a joke. You can have a fun reception but still have it formal. I've always had a blast at receptions, make sure there is good music and some booze and people will have a good time. Plus you don't want to look back at your wedding photos and have it look like a 8 year olds birthday party.